Even the healthiest relationships go through periods of negativity. When tensions run high, it’s easy to get caught up in a cycle of blame, defensiveness, and resentment. As we all know, staying trapped in a negative pattern doesn’t lead to growth. If you want your relationships to thrive, you must work on creating positive energy in your life and communications.
Tarot readers often get asked for advice on how to break free from relationship ruts and restore balance. The tarot knowledge can be helpful in gaining insight into relationship situations, and also provide tools on how to transform a mindsets thereby attracting positivity into your life. By working with the cards, you can shift the energy within yourself first. Then, from an empowered state, you can take inspired action to improve your relationships.
Clearing Negative Energy
As a starting point, and before calling in the positive energies, a good practice would be to clear out any built-up negativity. These could be lingering hurts or grudges, as well as toxic patterns that we’ll want to break free of, as they have the potential of blocking the flow of love and joy. To cleanse yourself from a negative state of mind try the following:
Cord Cutting Meditation
Visualize cords of unhealthy attachment between you and your partner. Understand the sources that keep these cords together, and set an intention to release them from your end. Then, see yourself cutting these cords with the intention of moving forward in a healthy way. Ask the universe to fill in the newfound gap with feelings of love and gratitude.
Salt Bath Purification
Draw a warm bath and add 1-2 cups of sea salt. As you soak, think of your relationships. What would you like to change? What would you give up? Focus on all the negative energies that are controlling your relationships and imagine the salts absorbing them. Let the lightness of the water lift your spirit.
Four of Swords Rest
Wheneve you’re feeling stressed in your relationship, pull the Four of Swords out of the deck and give it a good hard look. The card portraying a silently contemplating knight is reminder to take a minute for ourselves to recharge when we feel overwhelmed. Get quiet, go within, and let your mind settle.
If you’ve made it so far in the process, you should have made some actual gains in releasing negativity, and making room for a more wanted positive atmosphere. There are many proactive ways to invite it in. Here are some proven favorites:
- Two of Cups Ritual
The Two of Cups represents a union of two energies that is grounded in love and mutuality. Grab two cups and fill them with water. Place a candle between the two cups, light it and sit infront of them, all the while visualizing positive energy flowing freely between you and your partner.
- Three of Pentacles Teamwork
This exercize can be done with your partner or by yourself. The Three of pentacles is a visualization of three persons working together to accomplish a feat. Use this message to reflect on any shared goals between you and your partner. Think of ways you can actively cooperate together. Open the topic up for discussion. Encourage brainstorming ideas and solutions in a mutually respectful and ego free discussion.
- Temperance Meditation
The Temperance card shows a figure of an angel mixing the contents of two cups. The mixing fluids signify harmony and healing. Medidate on that. Envision yourself as Temperance. Think of ways you can mix your wants along with your partner’s needs in a balanced state.
- Ace of Cups Self-Love
To attract and keep love you must feel attractive. Your feelings of self worth are reflected to our partners. The more we value ourselves the more our surroundings pick up on that. The overflowing Ace of Cups showers blessings upon us. Use this visuallization to empower your feelings of self-acceptance. Whether it be work, exercise, travel, or even as simple as listening to upbeat music and dancing, do the things that make your heart full.
- Relationship Renewal Spread
When you feel ready to actively transform a relationship, try the following 3 card spread:
- What energy needs clearing?
- What new intentions should be set?
- What practical actions can be taken?
Pull each card slowly, allowing time for self-reflection between each one. The cards will reveal underlying blockages, as well as guidance for moving forward. Remember, change begins from within. As you shift your own energy, you shift all of your connections.
- When Struggling, Call In Love
Remember that darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. When conflicts arise, instead of lashing out in kind, call on your highest self. Pull the Temperance card and breathe healing energies into the space between you and another. Let love, not fear, guide your actions. With time, patience, and conscious work, you can transform even strained bonds into reservoirs of positive energy.
While relating can be messy, with awareness and intention, we can cultivate life-giving connections. Tarot provides a mirror into our deepest needs, fears, and blocks. By doing the inner work suggested by the cards, we gain power to clear negativity and affirm positivity. Approach relationships as opportunities for growth. When wells of love seem dry, dig deeper. Keep choosing forgiveness, empathy and care – not only for others, but yourself. Our world needs more everyday peacemakers committed to co-creating harmonious relationships. With courage and compassion, we can get there, one interaction at a time.