When a partner who used to make us feel loved and special suddenly goes cold and distant, it’s totally normal to be upset and confused. We start wondering if we did something wrong or if they met someone else. It’s whack that people pull back without explaining why.
Is he ghosting me? or Why isn’t he reaching out?
We drew a simple 3 card tarot spread as seen in the image above. The ache when those we once considered secure attachments suddenly create distance without explanation can cut deeply, no matter the contextual details. We are left bewildered, spinning in self-doubt and searching internally for what shifted the tide. If this resonates with your relational situation, perhaps stepping back may offer perspective.
Card 1 – Three of Cups Upright
The lively Three of Cups frequently reflects those joyous initial days together, when passion flows freely, laughs echo and futures feel wide open in possibility. Consider – did your connection commenced wrapped in a glow of pleasure, vitality and dreams tasting sweeter for having been shared? If so, this stage must be respected while acknowledging that all seasons eventually change. When this card arises first, it indicates bonds inaugurated with abundant positive emotions, shared hopes and dreams – a “honeymoon period” characterized by feel good vibes.
Key Takeaway: If the relationship indeed started very happily, recognize that was real while accepting seasons shift. Don’t invalidate past happiness by over-focusing present challenges.
Card 2 – Four of Cups Reversed
Following the high vibes of Cups in upright position, the reversed Four of Cups hints that enthusiasm and excitement has faded, giving way to restlessness and boredom with the status quo. His actions signal immaturity lacking skills to enliven and deepen bonds once the first rush of adrenaline has worn off.
In context of inquiring about ghosting behaviors, this reversal warns that without proper relationship tools, the natural decline of the honeymoon period gets handled poorly by withdrawing and chasing stimulation elsewhere to avoid addressing issues.
Key Takeaway: Your partner lacks maturity and communication skills to healthily maintain intimacy after the initial love rush crashes. His actions signal temporary escapism rather than a considered desire to exit the relationship.
Card 3: Page of Swords Upright
As the closing card, the Page of Swords reflects persistent weighing and analysis of the relationship’s troubles – wanting to make sense of the how you feel mentally and emotionally. Yet the hovering Page of Swords hints that in your mind you continue weighing the scales of relationship. Internal debate persists around reconciling needs. Thus while contact has for some reason stopped, the door for reconnection still remains slightly open, awaiting both of you to gather the courage to transparently address issues so they may yet be resolved. It is still possible to work on the relationship if both of you make an effort to better meet each other’s needs
Key Takeaway: Have hope that with mutual effort learning positive communication tactics, stimulating growth behaviors and meeting needs, there remains a real chance to restore the relationship over time to even stronger .